Sugar Daddy Dating: A Guide to Breaking Up

As much as we’d all like to avoid it, breaking up in sugar dating is something that we all go through from time to time. But with some experience and thoughtfulness, you can learn how to break up with grace.

Here are a few tips on ending your sugar relationship and making sure you’re ready to try again!

Remember that it’s for the best

This might be the last thing you want to hear right now, but trust us and every sugar baby or sugar daddy who has come before you when we say, “it’s for the best.”

This is true regardless of whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee. If you’re the one ending things, it’s best that you freed your partner up to find someone who can take better care of them. And if you’re on the receiving end of the breakup, they’ve done you a favor by cutting you loose so that you can stop wasting time on someone who doesn’t see your value.

Put another way, if this person was really your sugar soulmate, you would have found a way to make it work. But something wasn’t right.

Be honest and respectful

When you sit down and have the dreaded break-up talk with your sugar partner, try to be as professional as the day you met them. There will certainly be a time for emotional fallout later. But when you’re face-to-face, it can be helpful to keep things civil and direct.

If you’re initiating the break-up, tell them politely and professionally how you feel and why you’re choosing to leave. If you’re a sugar daddy, this might be a good opportunity for you to give one final parting gift so that your sugar baby isn’t left completely in the lurch.

On the other hand, when you’re being broken up with, don’t lose your composure. You might just find that your partner has some genuinely helpful comments that can make your next sugar relationship more successful. Or, they might tell you some things that you absolutely don’t agree with. In that case, you can take their opinion with a grain of salt and focus your energy on moving on. Either way, you’ll have a much easier time getting through it without losing your cool.

Don’t take things too personally

Keep in mind that sugar relationships are often more practical than romantic ones. As such, breakups can come down to a list of factors that have nothing to do with you. Your sugar daddy might have had a chat with their accountant and realized that they don’t have extra funds for a sugar baby. Or, your sugar baby might have taken a full-time job that will require all of their time and energy.

You may never get a clear answer about why a sugar partner has ended things. But, if you’re not sure, give yourself a break by considering that their decision might have been completely separate from yours.

Don’t get messy

There are plenty of reasons to feel bad when a sugar relationship ends. You might have grown accustomed to a certain lifestyle that your sugar daddy promised you. Or, you might feel deceived by a sugar baby who broke your trust. These are valid reasons to feel betrayed, upset, and even angry.

But, you’ll save yourself a lot of time and energy by choosing the high road. Take the breakup with pride, cut your losses, and don’t seek an act of messy revenge. You can offer yourself your own closure and validation without dragging out the breakup longer than it has to be.

Make it a clean break

It’s a pretty big disappointment to see pictures on social media of your sugar ex with a new partner on their arm. And, it’s never a great feeling to wake up realizing you texted your sugar ex the night before when you were missing them.

While it can be tempting to keep in contact or keep tabs on your former sugar partner, a clean break is in everyone’s best interest. Tie up all your loose ends during the break-up conversation and then move on, for good.

If you need to, take a break from sugaring

Sometimes, coming out of a breakup can leave you feeling jaded and bitter about sugaring in general. This is a normal reaction to the pain and disappointment of ending any kind of relationship.

Instead of writing off sugaring forever, consider taking a break. Or, use this opportunity to explore different kinds of sugar relationships that don’t remind you of your last one. If you’re still reeling from an overly emotional long-term sugar arrangement, for instance, give your emotional side a break by going on a few casual FWB dates.

Be mindful of who you talk to

Despite what many people believe about sugaring, the relationships between partners can be emotional and strong. So, you don’t have to be ashamed when emotions like grief and sadness come up after a breakup in sugar dating.

That being said, be thoughtful about who you share your sentiments with. People who don’t understand the complexity of sugaring may not validate your feelings. They may even blame you for being involved with a sugar partner in the first place.

It can be more painful when people like this pile on the negativity, so be very careful about who you seek out for support. If you don’t think that anyone in your life is up to the task to be your post-break-up cheerleader, consider reading the experiences of other people in the bowl online.

Focus on yourself

Okay, we know. This is the most cliche bit of advice that we can share. But, it’s cliche for a reason! The best thing you can do for yourself and your sugaring practice after a break-up is to refocus on yourself. Dedicate some extra time to your career, hit the gym, hang out with friends, and pick up a hobby. These are all things that will make you feel more self-sufficient and confident. And guess what? Your independence and rich life will make you more interesting to potential partners!

Be careful with your baggage when you start dating again

No one enters a new relationship without some baggage. So, there’s no point in pretending that your past sugar arrangements haven’t influenced the way you’ll show up for the next one. The important thing is to be mindful about it.

One thing you can do is take a neutral look at your most recent sugar relationship. What worked well for you? What did you appreciate about your partner? What do you think you did well in the arrangement? On the other hand, what would you have done differently? What were the things that you didn’t enjoy about your relationship?

Being reflective after the break-up with a calm critical eye can actually be a great way to turn your past experiences into learning opportunities.

Get back out there (when you’re ready!)

Only you will know when you’re ready to move on from your past arrangement and meet someone new. Remember that breaking up in sugar dating is a process just like with traditional relationships. So be easy on yourself and give it time.